|#TBT of my Mom and I in Colorado|
My Mom and I were having a conversation the other day, she said my Dad asked if she was an artist now, she replied of course she was, but why was he asking? He didn't know, it just popped in his head because she was doing so many different art projects. She told me 'I don't need anyone to tell me I'm good at crafting, I know I am' LOL.
I've always heard that girls get their self confidence from their fathers, but I think it's pretty clear I get mine from my Mother. My Father was one of four boys, growing up without sisters means he isn't always sensitive to a woman feelings, not on purpose, but says things jokingly that are not always funny.
More than anything else I teach this girl, you have got to have confidence in yourself, it will help her in so many areas of her life. Hopefully it will steer her in a path of being a leader and not succumbing to peer pressure. You don't have to be the best or the prettiest or the thinnest, but you do have to own your actions and reactions to situations and people, be confident in what you stand for, KNOW what you stand for.
I teach my kids by example, I could talk until I'm blue in the face, but maybe they will hear me and maybe it's background noise. I face my fears, I do things I'm scared of, I trust my gut. In my marriage Oliver tends to be the more negative one and I'm the more positive, sometimes he does it and honestly doesn't even realize he's doing it until I point it out. It's hard to change who we are, even for the good of our kids. That's why God put us together, to balance each other out. I'm the pusher and Oliver's the puller, he needs me to bump him out of his comfort zone and I need to be reeled back in when I get overly excited.
So many times women are the worst at negative self talk, mostly about their body. I don't look good, I have fat rolls, I have cellulite, I have lumps, I have stretch marks. Yes, those are all imperfections and we all know that most women have all of those things too. Why do we feel the need to qualify how we look to others, no one except you cares about your stretch marks or cellulite. If you are always airing your negative thoughts about your body to others, that's going to make them feel uncomfortable or even worse, bad about their own body. They are going to compare themselves to you and if you are talking badly about your flaws then theirs must be even worse.
Like Madison says, THAT'S A PROBLEM. When women talk about lifting each other up, it starts with your actions to yourself. It's easy to say LOVE YOURSELF, but if you are in a cycle of negative thoughts and feelings towards you, how do you change it? Would you do it for your kids? For your husband? For your friends?
|Dress from Ollie Marie, necklace here.|