A couple days ago I was struggling with how to explain gossiping to my six year old. We've already had many discussions on dealing with 'mean' girls, but after the girl in question wasn't invited to a birthday party and hearing some comments Madison made I became worried about the other girls feelings. I struggled with how to explain to her, in terms she would understand, that she was not to talk about the girl or the fact that she wasn't invited to the party with the other kids EVEN IF THEY WERE ALREADY TALKING ABOUT IT. Don't be part of the problem Madison, how would you feel if the other kids were talking about you and you found out? It's completely fine to not be this girls friend, but that doesn't make it ok to make her feel bad by saying mean things even if it's not to her face.
Right? Does this sound like sane advice in this situation?
I wonder because at 34 years old I am still left feeling hurt when I'm gossiped about by other women.
A well meaning person sent me an message that she was concerned that someone on my private FB was not someone I would want on there, apparently a picture from a local race I was tagged in showed up on that stupid website and she thought they might have found it through my page.
Yeah, it's a unflattering picture for sure, in fact you can pretty much google any race I've ever done and they are ALL bad! What can I say, I'm not a pretty runner, I'm focusing on my speed rather than smiling or trying to cover up for a picture. In fact, I came in FIRST place in my age group on this race. Anyways, I've been nicknamed FlabbyMeg. Nice.
I can't imagine why I'd be flabby, I only lost over 100 pounds.
At this point you'd think that mean comments about my body, parenting, food, and life in general would not affect me. Yet, I cried in my office at work yesterday. Of all the things I wish I could change about myself being sensitive to criticism is top of the list.
I need to channel my inner Beyonce and wake up flawless and unhurt by mean words.
I don't know why anyone is surprised by bloggers only posting pictures where they look amazing or skinny, when you have women who spend their free time gossiping about other peoples bodies and saying some really ugly things, wouldn't you only want to put your best foot forward?
I'm not even really sure why I'm sharing this, I know in my head that what other people say shouldn't matter, but it's a lesson I'm sure to keep instilling in my daughter for years to come. Don't be that girl, be proud of ALL your actions not just the ones others see. Women will never change, in fact they may be getting worse if anything, but I'm happy to say I surround myself by only the best ones. The good one lift you up, the good ones are not jealous of your success, and the good ones are not going to talk about you behind your back or computer screen.
So I'm just gonna keep on taking my flabby butt to the gym, cause yeah, whatever I'm doing is working just fine for me.