I don't like to call myself a 'blogger', people give you side eye and ask what that even means, then they just smile and nod as you try to explain yourself.  I'm just a girl who shares thoughts and pictures online, I don't make a living off of it and never plan to. Putting yourself out there can be hard and I'm not talking about showing a little extra skin, I've been asked for advice from people who are thinking about starting their own blogs so here are a few things to take into consideration.

1. How much is too much?
You have to decide for yourself how much of your life you are willing to share, but on the flip side you will get judged for everything you show.... and don't show.  For example, you post a picture of your dessert after dinner, you must only be eating junk and that's why you are still chunky. Also be sure to post pictures with your kid every so often so people know you still love and take care of them.

2. Always be ready for a picture.
Cause that time you're out getting Fro-Yo with your family and someone thinks they are sneaking a picture of you eating and they actually being pretty damn obvious is super awkward.

3. Enough is never enough.
Having good intentions and trying to help and encourage people is great, but the time will come when some will expect more. You didn't answer an email, or provide enough support, or give them the answer to losing weight. It's hard to not be discouraged by complaints about free help. I put time and effort into sharing my personal plans on my blog and Facebook groups, there is no secret to my weight loss - I've told you everything. I hate that I feel guilty for not helping someone fully, but I legit just don't have it in me after working a full time job and everything else.

4. Your opinion is not enough.
You better be crazy sure about every single thing you post, even after spelling out the fact that you're not a professional anything, because if you are wrong you will get scathing emails or comments. Simmer down folks, simmer down now.

5. Staying true to you.
This is one of the hardest parts about blogging, no one wants to read about your fake life, my goal is to be who I am in real life online as well. My humor is sometimes misread so I have to be careful when that doesn't translate well on the world wide web.

I miss House!

Now, I'm being a little negative Nancy about it and there are some really good sides to blogging.

1. Making new friends.
This is hands down the number one reason I keep blogging. I love meeting new people and making friends who have the same goals as I do. I've met countless people who lift me up and inspire me to be a better person every single day. The group chats are sometimes my daily therapy from the crazy.

2. Keeping yourself accountable.
This may only really be true for a fitness/weightloss blog, but it's nice to have a place to 'check in' and keep my momentum going!

3. Free stuff.
The free stuff is pretty nice, obviously I'm a girl in lust with clothing and I get some pretty good items on the regular. While I hardly make any money on my blog, the clothing and accessory allowance is quite nice for now!



  1. Typed a comment and it disappeared, and I don't have it in me to do it all again. Long story short -- people who follow bloggers for the sole sake of criticizing and hating on them (Helllooo GOMI) are losers. You've always been very up front/down to earth/etc. in what works for you, and haven't, that I can recall, claimed to be an expert in anything. I'm by no means a *fangirl* , just someone who reads your blog from time to time. But it's clear to me what you are, and what you aren't. If others can't see that, or want to take offense, there's an easy way to not be offended: don't read your blog, follow you on IG, whatever. Screw 'em. :)

    1. Argh. My EYEROLL after *fangirl* is missing, and it's integral part of my comment. Ha!

    2. hahhaha, I read between your lines and felt that eye roll ;)

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  3. I LOVE your blog. I appreciate all the time and effort you put into your blog. Thanks for the inspiration!

  4. Same thing happend to me Cara713 :) But basically I was just saying, I have been reading your blog for a few years now and I give you two high fives in the category of staying true to yourself. Keep up the amazing work, for the people that come to be negative nancies, thats because they are insecure with themselves. So I give you props on taking the negative and throwing it out the window. I've enjoyed reading, and learning new things from you! Keep up the amazing work! and you deserve the clothing "allowance" :) My husband and I recently started our own blog about life and challenges etc. Its a lot of work to keep up with but i really enjoy it. So keep doing it as long as YOU enjoy it :)



    I'm still new to this and not really sure how to link my blog to my profile hahahaha!

  5. The group text picture above? YES. It's just so true.

  6. SOOOOO true! luckily for me all of the positives outweigh the negatives. :)

  7. Look. I have been emailing you for years trying to get you to lose my weight for me. Why haven't you responded? Why haven't you driven to my house and stopped me from eating spoonfuls of peanut butter? Why haven't you showed up at my house when I turn my alarm off and yelled at me to get up? It is your responsibility to lose my weight...lol


    1. lmao. amanda. You'd be pissed if I showed up and took your peanut butter, don't lie.

  8. I love your blog! The best! Thank you :)

  9. I just wanted to say I always enjoy reading your blog, I dont know what I would do if you ever stopped! Lol!

  10. 1) You are motivating to me! I have read your blog for a while now and love that you are real.
    2) I didn't know you were loosing weight for other people? Damn! Do you know how hard I have been working at this? Can you take this last 30-40 pounds for me? I am tired. :P
    3) I miss House too!

  11. I think you're awesome. You are the only blog I follow regularly. You're doing a great job!

  12. I am a teacher and mom. What I really appreciate from following your journey is that it helps me in my own. Knowing that there is someone else that has similar responsibilities but takes time for themselves to be heathy. It helps me when I get stuck in my head about juggling it all. I also like anyone who doesn't constantly bash their spouse. Keep on skinnymeg! :)

  13. Although it's good for them to get given a hard time! ;)

  14. I love your blog! love your honesty! you have inspired me and so many! I get so frustrated when I see peoples negative comments about you and other bloggers, I just want to reach in the screen and B**** slap them silly, and your kids are the most adorable happiest kids on the planet second to mine of course. thank you so much for all you share!!!


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