There are many different reasons to not judge other peoples parenting, but most of all everyone has a different experience with their child. I've mentioned it before, but it just keeps coming up in my head, my parenting with each of my children is so polar opposite. Unless you've had a difficult baby then I just don't think you can fully understand how incredibly hard it is on a daily basis. I'm not talking normal baby stuff, like crying or wanting to be held. I'm talking regular meltdowns, not sleeping, and completely chaotic kids.
I pretty much lived in survival mode every single day from the time she was born until she turned 4. Car rides were a nightmare, she screamed, oh this child could scream. I remember pulling over in a bad neighborhood to nurse her because I was about to lose my mind one day.
She hated to sleep, from the very moment I brought her home. Naps were a nightmare, you had to actually lay down with her and if you had to leave the room you better start praying you can make it out without a peep. After months we broke down and tried to cry it out - she can outlast me that's for sure. I don't think she was sleeping through the night until she was close to a year old.
From the moment she could walk, around 10.5 months, she was a daredevil. She was climbing and jumping off furniture every chance she got. I stayed home with her during this time and by the end of the day, God Bless, I was done. I wanted to hurt Oliver for even being 10 minutes late getting home at night.
I had a few friends with kids during this time, but no one really understood how crazy life was for me. They all had even keeled children, quit and shy even. I'll be honest, it really made me feel like I was doing it wrong and that maybe I was a terrible Mother. Why was my child unhappy?
|Isn't she beautiful?|
Something happened around the time she turned 4, she seemed to finally outgrow whatever was making her nuts. She was so polite and lovable, not that she wasn't lovable before, but it was more noticeable when it wasn't overshadowed by crazy. For as difficult as she was as a baby, she's grown into just as easy a child, with a heart the size of Texas. She smart and hilarious, a genuine joy to be around every day!!
The month before I gave birth was super stressful for Oliver and I, we fought, a lot. Looking back I think we both just assumed every baby was like Madison and we both had a lot of fear. Well, it's very true that all babies are different, he's a complete opposite, even though the look like twins :) I still thank my lucky stars EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT. that he is such an easy going LOVES to sleep baby.
Not that he doesn't have his moments, but I'm a pro and it's nothing I can't handle with ease now.
This is just a message to all you Mom's out there who have a crazy kid, hang in there. I wish someone would of told me that when I was in the throes of the hard days, maybe I would of had more confidence that I was actually doing an OK job and my kids would turn out fine.
If you are living in survival mode every day, I feel you, but it makes you even better on the other side. Promise.