Doing It All.

I would say about 60% of the comments or emails I get ask my 'secret' for how I seem to get so much done. "How do you have the energy? How do you get up so early? You do so much for having two kids!" I came across a post on Facebook today from a mother who was tired of feeling like she wasn't doing enough because she 'didn't stop making excuses and get to the gym' and it really got me thinking about perception and finding that balance. 

Let me let you in on my 'secrets' - Spark and coffee. Kidding, well kinda, I do drink one of each a day, but that ain't gonna keep you rev'd for 18 hours. 

First and foremost is my partner in life, my husband. He helps, he cleans, he takes care of the kids, he works, he provides, and sometimes he'll even cook. I picked a good one and if I'm being super honest I think a lot of wives let their husbands slide with a lot of the work that needs to be done for a family. We've figured out things that work for us, for example, he will do laundry, but won't touch a mop or a toilet so I do it. He hates to cook so I do all the cooking and he does all the dishes {while simultaneously chewing me out for using so many}. He works full time from home, which gives him a little more load around the house because, well, he's there all day. His shift is 12-7 so that's how I'm able to get in 5am workouts during the week.

 When we added another child to our family there were stressful times, Oliver was not much help during the night and that's just something I had to accept and move on from, he's not a 'middle of the night' kinda person. None of us are, but we adapt for sweet little angel babies. God heard my prayers and sweet Aiden turned into a pretty good sleeper around 5 months. 

Y'all my kids are 5 years apart, that's a heck of lot easier than having 2 or 3 kids who are very close in age. Madison is a big girl, she's helpful and can do for herself most of the time. I only have to deal with one child's gymnastics, dance, or soccer game which leaves me extra time to do things I want on the weekend like the gym or playing my own soccer.

Both my parents and Oliver's parents live close by, super helpful. Oliver's Mom is retired and dotes on the grand kids, she watches them full time, helps to take them to appoints or activities when needed, heck she'll even run to the grocery store if we are out of things! The perks of marrying an only child :) My Mom and Dad both still work, but my Mom works from home as well so if needed she's there for us. My Dad will come by on Fridays and take Madison to school just for fun, they pick her up on a Tuesday night for open swim at the Y, she spends every Friday night at their house. My family makes my life run smoothly. 

There are things I give up, mostly sleep, but to ME I love sweating more than I love sleeping. So what? Meredith {above} she loves sleep, hahahha, and I respect that {although I still try to talk her into my early morning stuff} she comes when she can and is very honest that she's happier when she has that extra time at home. There is no right way, only the way that works for YOUR life. 

We say it all the time, but I think it's so important to not compare your life to others! I do not contain special powers that motivate me, I just have a lot of help and a love of sweating. I'm a morning person, I don't mind getting up at 4:30am. I've learned that I can't do it all, if I focus a lot of my energy into one area another one usually starts slipping. I've been a terrible friend lately, I turn down most invitations to go out and do things. In fact I made plans months ago to go see a comedian who was in town with my coworkers and it was this last Sunday. Both the kids were sick and I had zero desire to go out and be out past my bedtime knowing I had to work the next day, but I was the one who bought tickets for everyone so if I didn't show up they wouldn't be able to go. So I went, I had fun, and only felt a little guilty.

This girl right here wasn't making excuses for her weight, I just didn't have the knowledge on how to change my behaviors. It had very little to do with me getting up at 5am, but more with how to feed myself better. I had to learn to cook, I had to learn what food where made up of, I had to learn how to live healthier. That doesn't have to take away from you life, but it does take a little effort. You don't need to go balls to the wall to have success, you can make being healthy fit you life IF YOU WANT IT TO. It's not about excuses, although I've heard some doozies! Do what makes you happy. Working out makes me happy, so I get my ass up and do it. 

Washing my floors makes me sad, so I don't do that.
Laundry, that makes me sad too. 



  1. I think having a supportive partner is huge! When I was really into running and training for my half my husband knew it was really important to me and he made it work for me which means taking care of the kids or cooking dinner. I agree with you too many women let their husband slide. If working out is important to you it should be important to him and he should help to make it happen.

  2. love this, I dream of a supportive partner one day. lol, until then I make the best of what I can do as a single Mom, I can workout at home in the AM's but can't run till the evenings, so that's when I get it done. Do what you can and do what you have too, but just do it, right? ;)

    1. Look up Melissa Bender Fitness, she has some killer at home workouts!

  3. I teared up reading this. THANK YOU SO MUCH. I'll be very honest and tell you that I have compared myself to you many, many times and felt like a loser. It was so comforting to hear all of this. Comparison is always the thief of joy, no? Biggest hugs to you, Meg!!!

  4. Thank you so much for this blog post, it is exactly what I needed to hear!! Comparison is absolutely the thief of joy, and I have been making an effort to not compare myself to others. Thank you for reminding me that everyone's journey is different, and that I have to do what works for ME. I always look forward to your blog posts every morning, you have been such a huge inspiration to me!!

  5. Yes. the comparison game has to stop. Great job balancing it out and finding out what works for your family.

  6. Thank you for this, I needed it!

  7. it takes a village and you have a great one. thanks for always being positive, upbeat and honest. Love your honesty!

  8. Absolutely girl. I wish you were near me! I hate going to the gym by myself!!! I always look at gym time as a treat and prefer it in the evenings even though it would be better to do it in the mornings. That's what works for me! If I were a single mom with a small paycheck, I don't think I'd be able to do what I needed to do without working out at home!

  9. Love, LOVE, love this post! Thanks for being honest and for being so humble about it. It definitely helps to have so much family support.

  10. I love that you and your husband have figured out what works for you. My husband and I share a lot of the chores around the house. And it works, I hope that continues when a kid is tossed into the mix. Thanks for the low down on your motivation and for helping us realize, you don't have to do it all, delegating is a great thing!!!

  11. AMAZING! I loved this. People make excuses for the things they don't want to do. Everyone has 24 hours in a day; it is how YOU spend those hours to get things done! I love your attitude, your workouts, your honesty, and YOU! Keep rocking it!

  12. I love love love this post. I absolutely love your outlook and your honesty.

  13. I agree... Marrying an only child is amazing!

  14. great post!!! and family help really is amazing and makes a ton of difference.. plus having a husband who helps out alot around with different chores makes a world of difference, I have one and it makes the balance a ton earlier.. I am a firm believer in the idea if you want something to happen it will and you'll make the effort.

  15. In the book "Lean In," Sheryl Sandberg discusses that a key part of her career success is having a partner who is truly a partner and shares responsibility. I think that applies to any life success, though. You are exactly right to credit Oliver and his willingness to be a partner! (and call out "wives let their husbands slide with a lot of the work that needs to be done for a family.") The motto we use for sharing chores around the house: "Teamwork makes the dream work." Ha!

  16. Washing my floors makes me sad, too. Do you think Oliver can come teach Josh to do it for me?

  17. Couldn't have said it better!! No excuses. Make time for what is important. Good for you!!

  18. Love this! Having a supportive partner, who also helps around the house is very important. My family does not live nearby (I wish they did) but my mother-in-law does and she is helpful and watches my son (she is retired) on non school days or whenever I need her. My husband does all of the laundry, dishes (washing and dishwasher duties), cleans bathrooms and has dinner ready for me every night, because he gets home earlier than I do. We both find time to relax, work out and whatever other fun thing we want to do. If you want something badly enough, you will figure out a way to make it happen. I love your blog!

  19. Loved this post! I definitely agree that having a partner that shares household and child duties 50/50 really makes life easier. Also, so true that you have to find what works for you and what you enjoy doing. I'm not in the 5am club and probably won't ever be because I am not a morning person. But that's fine because I can just workout in the later afternoon or night and all is good. It's however it's going to work best for you. :)

  20. What a blessing to have so many helpful hands!

  21. What a blessing to have so many helpful hands!

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