7.15.2014

Tough Love.

 Today I feel like I need to dole out some tough love. Now, I'm not singling anyone out, this is more of a blanket statement after doing my No Excuses Weekend.The challenge was to have 3 days of No Excuses, three measly days people! I asked on Facebook if anyone was struggling and the amount of feedback I got was staggering. I mean, one excuse after another. Birthday parties, sick kids, and husbands who aren't dieting. I'm gonna be honest, you need to be able to get through these types of things without falling off the wagon if you plan to be successful. 

I get it, I struggle too! I have kids, I have a husband who loves to eat, I have parties to attend and lots of shit going on pretty much any given day. I don't have any special powers that makes me any different from any of you, but I WANT THIS. So if I can do this SO. CAN. YOU. I look at that birthday cupcake and think 'hmmm, I can eat this if I want to, but is it really really worth it?' Because yes, all those little 'cheats' are the difference between success and failure. 



If you are unable to get through one weekend without cheating you need to get real with yourself and what's going on. Have a good come to Jesus talk with yourself or a friend, it shouldn't be THAT hard. You won't die, promise. 

Ok, I feel better now that I got that off my chest :)

This week I'm teaming up with Val from Fab Chick Get's Fit because we know what it's like to be living in a body that is not completely what we want. All women struggle with body acceptance, I'm pretty sure we are born with it. While we are working on getting our body to a better place, it's still important to learn to love what you got. 


Starting TODAY {Tuesday 7/15} you will take a picture of a part of your body that you love OR you can take a picture of something you are doing/eating that will help you love your body more. You do this once a day for the week. Make sure to use the hashtag #loveyourbodychallenge

At the end of the week, everyone who participated will be entered into a random drawing for an awesome prize from Collywobbles Boutique and a piece of jewelry from A Tad Monroe.

I think it's hard when a lot of 'fitness' people on blogs and IG are faking it {and no I'm not talking about ML}, there are several 'famous' people I've followed that have obviously doctored their photos. You have to be internet savy enough to realize that everyone posts the good angles, duh. Wouldn't you? There's nothing wrong with that, but don't compare your real reflection to someones good angle - okay?

For example, the one on the left is a great side shot, but dang if the one from behind should ever see the light of day. Except - I'm here to be truthful with you guys.


Both are undoctored and unfiltered pics, it's just angles. 
I'm okay with both of them, I ain't sweating my ass off in the gym for nothin'!




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41 comments :

  1. I needed this today! I had been so lazy and have put in a few lbs. I got serious with myself last week and am proud if what I accomplished! Thanks for being such an inspiration!

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  2. If my instagram account is private can I still participate?

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    1. I think as long as you hashtag it I can see it

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    2. I think her account has to be public for you to see pictures, regardless of the hashtag. My cousin's wedding hashtag says there are 100+ photos in it however I can only see the ones from public profiles, which is about 30 pictures.

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  3. Hey girl...THANKS!!!! :)
    Jeness

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  4. I totally get what you are saying but I think there is a difference between "struggling" with your excuses and using your excuses. Like today, I struggled. I hemmed and hawed about getting out of bed at 4:45 because I didn't get a good nights sleep, my back kinda hurt, and I am covered in mosquito bites ( which if you try wearing sneakers when your feet are covered it mosquito bites, its a whole new form of torture), but I still did it.

    So if you were to ask me if I struggled today, yeah I did. But I didn't use the excuses, I got my bum out of bed and to the gym! Its all about overcoming the excuses!!

    If you were referring to people using their excuses, I'm right there with ya. There is always places to find time to workout and focus on you, even in this hectic world we live in!

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  5. Amen! Excuses are what got us each to a place we don't like. We are all capable of success and kicking ass and taking names!

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  6. Great post! I didn't commit to the challenge, because we were on our way to a family reunion - 12 hours in the car there and 12 hours back. So I knew for 2 days of the weekend, exercise wouldn't happen. BUT I food shopped and went prepared and DID.NOT.CHEAT. at all! No desserts, no alcohol, nothing!! I also went for a walk/hike the day I wasn't in the car. t am halfway through Whole30 and am determined to finish strong. So, it can be done - it is a mindset - and also being prepared!!

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  7. Food wise I did fine over the weekend - it was the workout time I struggled with. I am still trying to find an ideal time to get those scheduled in.

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  8. That's right! Either you want it or you don't!

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  9. I haven't been doing your challenges but I love the post. I lost 35 pounds last year, and that meant I had to skip a lot of partying with my friends (I'm in my 20s- no kids) and I got used to going to restaurants and ordering healthy salads when everyone else had pizza. I have another 20 to lose but I've been maintaining for the summer. I plan to get back on the grind this fall/ winter (don't judge me). HAHA.

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  10. I love this post! It's the truth! We were on a little vacation this weekend and I used the #noexcuses to not gorge on the continental breakfast. It's definitely not fun to skip on ice cream when everyone else is digging in, but it's also no fun to feel like crap (figuratively or literally) because I did indulge.

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  11. I need some tough love! Thank you for keeping me inspired and can't wait to post for the #loveyourbodychallenge :)

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  12. Thank God for the tough love! I had to stop reading all the responses to your facebook post. I got 99 excuses but I ain't gonna let one of them derail me! It drives me nuts when people complain all day on facebook and then wonder what the problem is. The more you verbalize your problems, excuses and roadblocks, you will subconsciously focus more on that and have a pity party. Let's get the positive, "I can do it" vibes going!! Can't wait to do the #loveyourbodychallenge.

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  13. Absolutely love your #loveyourbodychallenge idea!

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  14. WoW. I needed to hear that and I am thankful that you care enough to say something because in this world we have enough people in our own lives that encourage our failure. You do not! THANK YOU.

    http://soldoutarenas.wordpress.com

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  15. Yes! Yes! Yes! To all of this! Great post!

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  16. Excuses are like buttholes. Everyone has them and they all stink.

    I think the BIGGEST part of this journey is getting your mind right. Once you get it in your head that you are making this change for the rest of your life somehow the excuses don't matter as much anymore. You find a way to make a better choice.

    Great post! I love this challenge!

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  17. I completely agree!!! I get SO sick of hearing the excuses!! You gotta dig deep people and find that determination!! And I can say this because 130 pounds ago I made excuse after excuse after freaking excuse. And I was miserable. And blamed everyone else for the way I felt and looked. It was when I stopped making excuses that I found my strength, determination, will, passion, fight, and found ME. I am human and am not perfect (just ask that dessert I pounded on the 4th of July. It still haunts me.) but I know when I screw up, I have NO ONE to blame but myself and it is MY responsibility to get my crap together and get focused again. Push thru the excuses and kick ass!!!

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  18. I'm not involved in your challenge - but so appreciated your words. I lived the excuses for the last 5 months and here I am up a few pounds after 5 months of trying to lose weight. I finally hit my limit about a week ago where being successful is more appealing than pizza or chocolate or gummy bears. I think until you hit that moment, no plan will work. You have to want it more than you want to make excuses.

    Love watching your success and finding motivation from you!

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  19. I didn't participate in the challenge, but definitely needed to read this today! It's so easy to make up an excuse and then be angry when you aren't making any progress. I think the key to true success when trying to lose weight is realizing that the actions and decisions of other people to not diet, to host birthday parties, to serve yummy cake does NOT determine whether or not you can restrain yourself. I 100% believe you should enjoy "everything in moderation", but if you fall off the wagon, get right back on. No one is going to change your habits except for you. :)

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  20. Your amazing and I love your honesty. I cant allow myself cheats when I diet,I always fall off the wagon. I cannot wait till the wnd of this to see the results tho. Its been hard but I know it will pay off and I love all the support!! You rock Meg!!

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  21. Thank you for the encouragement and love the challenge this week! Woohoo!

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  22. I love this post so much! Everything you said is right on!

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  23. I am so guilty of being unhappy with how I look and pretty soon I forget all of the things I do like. Thanks for reminding people to embrace themselves-flaws and all. I don't like it when people get so caught up on tomorrow that they miss out on today.

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  24. I soooo needed to read this today. THANK YOU! I wasn't in your challenge, BUT... I love, love, love this "all those little 'cheats' are the difference between success and failure." Yes. Yes they are.

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  25. Thanks for being so real SM.
    you are way to good. And I wish I could train with you.
    anyhow, I fall trap into all
    parties..sick.kids..non dieter spouse etc.

    why does it have to be so tough???
    I will certainly participate.
    xoxo
    love z

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  26. Such a good post. Time to get off the couch and spend some time with Jillian!!! Thanks for this :)

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  27. Just like many have said before me, I so needed this today. I've been struggling lately but need to stop letting my excuses and poor choices hold me back. Thanks for giving us the wake up call that we needed.

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  28. 🙌🙌🙌 I totally agree with your post. I love you post btw. You have really encourage me to get up and move. Thanks for your inspiration

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  29. Thanks so much for you post. I had been saying the same thing to myself all day. Hubby is gone 2 months for work and I'm having a hard time not eating through the afternoon because I am soooo tired (from playing single mommy!). But I keep telling myself basically what you said: It's not that we can't do it. If you don't do it, then it's because we didn't really want to. So-- the question I kept asking myself--- HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT THIS??? Also-- I listened to a podcast (half size me) today where he said that he always thinks "How will this make me feel in 2 hours, tonight, tomorrow..." before eating something or wanting to skip workouts. For example, he will eat donuts sometimes, but knows that it will result is being hungry again in 2 hrs because of the sugar crash-- and most times he decides it isn't worth it. Thought that was good advice too! Thanks again-- we all need to hear this sometimes!

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  30. Great post! I'm so naive, it never accord to me that people I follow would photoshop themselves! I read blogs for the 'realness' like yours.

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  31. Loved the pictures! So true, it is all about the angle! And I agree, we all need a little tough love from time to time!

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  32. Yes and no - about "excuses." I committed to your weekend challenge and I think I did fairly well. I lost 1.4 lbs (not in 3 days, but in 6 days). I weigh less today than I did last Friday. I went for a run on Saturday. I ate a cupcake on Sunday. I put it in mfp, I knew I was going to eat it. I wanted it. It was fine. And I also ate a slice of pizza. It was super thin crust and not loaded with cheese. I wanted it. And to me, that's the beauty of flexible dieting. I ate what I wanted, and I'm STILL losing weight. You don't have to be perfect all the time. In fact, I think it is healthy to indulge every now and then, so long as you don't let a cupcake ruin your entire day and set off a huge binge fest. I think the difference for me is that I don't have an unhealthy relationship with food and never have (trust me, I'm not perfect. But I don't seem to have the "emotional eating" issue that a lot of people - including my husband - have). I can eat two bites of ice cream and be satisfied, or I can decide that nope, tonight, I am going to eat that whole blizzard. I guess it is all a matter of perspective!

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