I'm sure most of you saw that Madison lost her front tooth, poor girl, I had no idea it was even loose until she got it knocked out with a soccer ball.
I guess she jokingly told my Mom she should get a 20 for being brave and not crying, no big deal. I mean she would trade you a 20 for 2 dollars, because - duh - two is more than one :)
Except to some of you I guess it was a big deal - which got me thinking about how spoiled or not my kid was.
Growing up in a family of 6, with a Mom who stayed home until I was in High School, we didn't have a lot of extra cash. Anytime we got an expensive gift it was for everyone, yeah right, like my brothers ever let me have a turn on the Nintendo! I don't remember ever having a girls shopping trip with my Mom or just getting a new outfit just because. Did all this sharing make me a better person? Eh, I kinda hate to share anything now, just ask my husband. Am I stronger for having to provide for myself? I appreciate my education more since I had to pay for it and I do have a good work ethic - not sure that's correlated though.
My husband on the other hand grew up as an only child and was provided lots of extras in life, some would say he was spoiled because his college and extras were provided for. He turned out pretty dang good anyways and is very responsible with his money, more so than I am.
Madison has pretty much been an only child for 5 years, plus she has BOTH sets of grandparents living within 20 miles and whom she see's almost on a daily basis. She's given everything, seriously the kid has her own iPad. A trip to Target regularly ends with her getting something, I mean, who can resist all the cute stuff there?? She's in dance, soccer, swim, gymnastics, and preschool - all of that is provided for her. Preschool was a luxury we couldn't afford when I was young.
I honestly don't see her as spoiled - to me spoiled is more of an adjective used to describe bratty kids. The one thing people always comment on is how polite and loving she is to others. I've seen first hand how she's gone out of her way to include someone who was on the outskirts or how she ALWAYS asks how my day was as soon as she sees me. In fact one of my neighbors had me laughing because she told me when Madison came over to play she went into the kitchen and was asking how HER day was, she's just a really caring kid.
When I ask her to do something, she does it. She's rarely in trouble for misbehaving, but she does have her moments, especially when she's overly tired. She always says thank you and I truly believe she is thankful, or as much as a 5 year old can be.
So no, I don't see any problem with giving her a 20 for her front tooth, it's enough for her to be able to go pick out a new pony and pay for it herself at the store. Will she get that much for every tooth, no, but then again she has no idea how much 20 dollars even is.
People are going to judge how my kid is raised regardless, but as long as she is caring and respectful of others I don't care. She may never know what it's like to struggle financially, but I'm ok with that, I've worked hard to build a good life for my children.
Just sucks for her that I'm in the 'no driving until your 18' camp :)