6.19.2014

Throwback Thursday - Compassion


 “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” (Steve Furtick)

It's amazing to me that one year ago I was giving myself fertility injections and praying daily for a baby. When I come across a pictures from then I can't help but think about all the frustrations I felt. While later in my journey I did share my feelings and what we were going through in the beginning I kept it to myself and it took a toll on me. Oliver didn't 'get' it and I felt very much alone in that aspect.


This is a picture I was tagged in during a friend of mines wedding, I remember that I started spotting that day and I was devastated, again. There was a full day of wedding activities planned so I had to put on my happy face and a cute chevron dress and be the friend I needed to be.

Yesterday on my way to work my Mom called and was telling me a story about how someone she knew for years was silently suffering at home and she never knew. Through all the turmoil he kept it to himself and was always such a great kid, you would have never guessed.

I am very much an extrovert - I find it hard to keep a secret and I'm what most would call an over-sharer, and sometimes I forget that not everyone is putting their life out there. I have had friends confide in me and it shocks me that they are going through hard things in their life and I have no clue. My way of dealing with stresses in my life is to talk about it, I find that so many people have delt with similar issues and I ALWAYS feel better knowing I'm not alone.

photo by Amber Jane.

Comparison is the thief of joy- always remember that you never know what people are going through. Have some compassion to those who treat you poorly - maybe they are having a rough day.
Be kind to those who spew hate - jealousy is a hard emotion to overcome.

I hope that whatever you are going through you have at least one person to turn to.


25 comments :

  1. I absolutely LOVE your blog. I've been able to relate on so many levels plus get inspired to be a better person all in one place. Thanks for sharing!!

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  2. This is such a great post. Everyone has their own struggles and we don't always know about them. I try to share a smile every chance I get because you never know who might really need it that day.

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  3. YES! Love it! I've been trying to build up the courage to share my baby-makin problems, but I worry that the people I know in real life will accuse me of "over sharing." I do love reading other people's stories to know that I'm not alone (especially when they end up with cutie pie babies).

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  4. I miscarried a few weeks ago; it my first pregnancy and I'm devastated. I'm like you, talking about it is the only way I know how to process. Unfortunately that makes some people uncomfortable, including my hubby who is an internal processor; "the less you talk about it the faster it will go away" seems to be his rational. My mom is a fantastic listener and I have a dear friend who went through the same thing a few years back so I can share my roller coaster ride of emotions with them and for that I am grateful. I can't imagine going through these last few weeks and keeping everything to myself. Quite honestly I think I would have imploded by now. I'm so glad things worked out for you; Aiden is one cute little boy! I'm hoping to find myself with a little one soon but knowing that I'm not alone in this journey is comforting.

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    1. I am so sorry for your loss. I've had 3 myself and understand how difficult it is. Big hugs!

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    2. My first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage as well. But 4 years and 2 beautiful babies later, life is good. Seeing you love and prayers as you work through the grief of your loss.

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    3. Sending. Not seeing. Sorry about that.

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    4. I went through a miscarriage this past January, it being my first pregnancy as well. I never imagined how hard it would be, and to this day, I still think about our little babe every single day. I'm wishing you and your husband all of the best. And the only advice I can give is to have faith. Trust in His plan for you. I think what helped me the most is knowing that the very first thing our baby saw was Jesus' face brings me so much peace. Sending love, prayers, and hugs. God bless!

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    5. Thank you for your sweet words ladies. It's still so new and fresh that we're trying to figure out how to deal as both individuals and a couple.

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  5. This is such an important reminder for all of us! I am so guilty of comparing my life to everyone else's and it's no way to live. This is exactly why I adore you - because you and I are so much alike! I am totally an over sharer and I am a talker. I can't deal with things without talking about them. And as a woman, I feel like my husband doesn't "get" a lot of the things I struggle with, which is why I'm so thankful for my amazing best friend and mama to talk to when things get tough. I'm so glad that you always feel comfortable sharing your life - the good and bad - here. Because I always love reading! <3

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  6. I needed this today! Thank you!

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  7. I'm so glad you finally got that sweet baby in your arms!! whenever I feel robbed since Baby Harper is gone, I think about how so many women pray and pray for a baby and eventually some of their prayers are answered. I feel lucky that I had 5 months as his mom when so many others aren't as lucky. :) PS love the chevron dress. duh.

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  8. I've done the keep it to myself and the talking about it. Talking about it definitely helped more but it's difficult for me to be so open in the moment. Thanks for sharing this.

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  9. One of your best posts. Especially the last paragraph about thief's of joy.

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  10. Wonderful blog. I am an introvert, but I am literally right on the line between and introvert and an extrovert. I find that I do close in when things are not great. I also love the part about comparison this is the one negative about social media because people only share the good and not the bad. Again great post.

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  11. I have always tried to not accuse people of things due to not knowing what their going through. It's hard sometimes, but I always try to say, you don't know what their day or life is like, so stop judging. No one knows how much I'm struggling on a day to day basis and I wouldn't want anyone to judge me, so why should I judge them. Love this post.

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  12. This is too sweet! Thank you for sharing you journey. I know I try to share more because it releases the stress but at the same time I am turning to running/working out at my therapy!! I love your blog and all you share. It truly is inspiring.

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  14. Good post today! I don't always comment, but I ALWAYS read! :)

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  15. Great post, Ditto above I dont always comment but always read! This line "Be kind to those who spew hate - jealousy is a hard emotion to overcome." is on.freaking.point.

    Thanks

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  16. This post is so on it! Thank you for all sharing.

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  17. What a great post! I try to remind myself of this daily. Just be kind!!

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  18. This hardcore just made me cry. Very beautiful and exactly what I needed to start my day.

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