11.27.2013

Clearing the Air

I feel the need to clear the air about my friendship with Brandi.  I can only speak from my side, but after all the speculation going on I felt it needed to be discussed. We all know that female friendships are hard. Women have so many emotions attached to every aspect of their life that it’s hard to mesh those with someone else’s.


I’m not going to speak about her personally, that’s not who I am. For me I think that we just started to grow apart. After I became pregnant we went through a rough patch that we tried to hash out, but the feeling were already there. I was very emotional during the first trimester so I’m sure that had some to do with it. We grew even further apart when our gym schedules changed and we stopped seeing each other on a daily basis. I found it hard to connect with her online. {Yes we still follow each other on Instagram}.


Yes we share our lives online, but things are not always as they appear. You see what you are shown, but we both have real life issues.  I honestly don’t know how to explain it any further than it just didn’t work out for us. There are no hard feelings and I wish her nothing but the best in her future endeavors.


Now hopefully we can all enjoy a nice Thanksgiving with the people we love. Or the ones we just tolerate ;)



Twilight Sparkle hopes you get something better than PB&J. 


 


100 comments:

  1. Dude. That was brave to share. Made respect for this post. Relationships are so complicated. *sigh*

    PBJ is and always will be my fave I think. But I don't look as good as TS eating it. :)

    ~Aubrey Leigh

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  2. I had no idea anything was even going on. I enjoy both y'all's online lives :) friendships ebb and flow, like life. No worries :) Happy Thanksgiving!

    -Dot

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  3. You didn't owe us that, but thank you for sharing. Hopefully now everyone else can move on too. :-) Happy Thanksgiving!

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  4. This is why you are my favorite blog to read. While others may claim to "keep it real", you actually do. By addressing the situation directly, rather than just ignoring the questions, it shows a lot about your character. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

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  5. What a classy, eloquent post. Sometimes friendships just fade away. You are a class act, Meg!

    -Two Ton Teacher
    http://twotonteacher.blogspot.com

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  6. Thanks for the deets. I was wondering what was going on. It seems to happens to all the great lady friendships: NeNe and Kim, Jill and Bethany, Lea and Adriana, Jacqueline and Teresa...

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  7. You nailed it. Female friendships are hard. I just hate that everyone got so nosy that you felt the need to explain. I LOVE your blog and Instagram. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your growing family!

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  8. Sad hear that, Hope you guys can work it out down the line.

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  9. This is awesome that you addressed it!! No one can see the big picture over the internet or know for sure the truth but I'm pretty sure some intuition still can perk up even from thousands of miles away. You're genuine, it's obvious... and others unnamed not so much. Keep being you!

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  10. Sad to hear, hope it works out in the end.

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  11. Awesome post, written with such grace. Some people let everything go to their heads, which in turn ruins friendships. Some people will do whatever it takes to e noticed, even if that is at the cost of friends or family. I'm so glad you have not let your weightloss go to your head! You are an awesome mom and wife that does not constantly talk about yourself and how beautiful and skinny you are. We can all see that without being told ;) great post..keep doing what your doing. Only surround yourself with positive people!

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  12. Intuition can kick even thousands of miles away. You are so genuine and caring..NOT FAKE! I can't say the same for others unnamed...keep being you!

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  13. You are very brave my dear. Female relationships are tough, we are emotional to say the least and sometimes things change and it's okay to just move on. I have had a similar situation in my life and it is great to see someone else feel the same way and show such a positive attitude towards the issue. Thanks for sharing!

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  14. Friendships are hard and some do grow apart. Very classy post. Thank you for inspiring me daily!

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  15. Way to be a bigger person! You are awesome!

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  16. Way to be a bigger person! You are awesome.

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  17. I am a firm believer than friendships enter our lives when they are suppose to and they leave our lives when they are suppose to. I have lost some very dear friends but I've had to learn that they were everything I needed at a certain point in my life. Thanks for your openness! Ashley @ Coffee Cake and Cardio

    www.coffeecakeandcardio.com

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  18. I can't think of a single friend that I haven't gone through a rough patch with. Life is busy and getting busier for the both of you. Love your honesty.

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  19. Hi! I don't usually comment, but felt led to today. I've followed you for a long time and truly enjoy your blog. I'm inspired by your journey. I think it's sad that you had to address your friendship, because it is your personal business. However, the way you did it was super classy. I hope you have a great Thanksgiving!

    Love,
    Marlie

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  20. Totally respect you for a) discussing a super hard thing so well and b) knowing what you need for you! You're fabulous! Enjoy your holiday!

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  21. Now, maybe people will stop asking. Enjoy those beautiful babies this holiday. =)

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  22. Sincerely appreciate your extremely respectful post. Class act!

    Here's to hoping my honey doesn't burn our turkey OR ham....but truthfully probably wouldn't mind some PB&J! ;) Happy Thanksgiving!

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  23. -hugs... I am going through the same thing with my best friend. Just keep your head high and pray for them..

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  24. -hugs... I am going through the same thing with my best friend. Just keep your head high and pray for them..

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  25. I think you are real, honest, and awesome. Glad I found your blog!

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  26. So open, which is why I truly enjoy your blog!!
    Thank you for being you!

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  27. HA! That face on little TS. Too cute!

    (And I love a good PBJ. I have to avoid bread for the most part, but man, once in a blue moon it's SO worth it.)

    Relationships in general are so complicated, and female friendships are even more so sometimes. Hey, it is what it is. Thanks for sharing.

    Have a great Thanksgiving!

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  28. I'm sorry that your friendship didn't work out. It's always hard to "break up" with a girlfriend. You guys look to be (from my view on the internets) in two very different places in life, and it's hard to connect when you have different priorities. You never know, maybe a few years down the road you'll hook back up....maybe not. Either way, it was brave to write this!

    I hope you guys have a fab Thanksgiving!
    xoxo
    Jenn

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  29. Sometimes it's good to get it out there. And ur right it's hard to maintain the same friendship. People change and move on. Hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

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  30. Female friendships are so hard!!! That's why in school I always had more guy friends than girl friends. Couldn't stand the drama!!! Happy Thanksgiving girl!

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  31. Team Megan all the way! Sorry I had to. You are such a role model and a great mom!!!! ML...not so much!

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  32. I agree with Aubrey. Relationships are hard. Lord knows I've had my share of friendships that have gone by the way side. Sometimes for no other reason than your lives are simply going in different directions. It was very nice for you to share. I admire you both.

    Joanne

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  33. Oh, and pb & J is one of my fav's just add a banana.

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  34. So glad this was touched on - it was starting to get a little annoying with everyone asking ALL the time. Like it's any of their business, ha!

    Love your blog, and what you do. Yours, Holly's, and Mel's are some of my favorites! Keep doing what you're doing, I have and always will be a reader!! :)

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  35. Wow super brave of you. This must have been difficult to write and you really shouldn't of had to write it. Peoples relationships change and your life focuses change. You are such an inspiration :) I am glad that your initial friendship with Brandi led me to reading your blog. I have learned so much from you> You are the first thing I read every day.

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  36. Female friendships are complicated, to say the least. I have so much respect for you for putting this out there. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours! So thankful to have found you and your blog!

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  37. Megan, she is adorable. I love her little personality!

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  38. Thank you for being honest with your followers!! You are awesome and inspiring. Have a happy, blessed Thanksgiving :)

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  39. Wow, I'm so out of the loop. But, friendships are hard at any ages. I was just thinking that the other day after seeing a meme thing online about guy vs girl friendships and my own friendships. Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving!

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  40. That was really nice to share. It's totally NOT any of our business but it's still sad to see a friendship not work out and hard to not be snoopy about it. I would like to add a personal story of my own. I have a really good friend who was {and is} such an awesome person in my life. We are at similar places in our lives {parenting, kids in sports, kids roughly the same ages.. our daughter are actually best friends} We would rollerblade almost every day, hang out, talk A LOT, even started a little at home business together. Looking back I think I actually spent more time and energy with her than my husband. She refreshed me in ways I didn't know I was needing. Then our lives started to take slightly different paths. Her priorities were on one thing, mine were more on raising my girls and my marriage. We had a few snarky conversations where sarcastic words were said, feelings got her, jealousy got the best of both of us. We went month and month without really talking. An occasional hi if we could run into each other. No phone calls, no working out etc.... Finally one day we just decided to talk it out and we both realized we don't have to have the same priorities to be friends, we just need to respect one another and each others decisions. I can't say it's 100% {and honestly giving her a 100% of me couldn't continue to happen} but we are I'd say 85%. And we are good with that. We had a fast fierce friendship in which lines needed to be drawn. I'm not sure if you and Brandi even desire to get back to anything close to what it used to be, however I just want you to know sometimes time does heal wounds and friendships can be restored, with boundaries that make you both happy. I wish you all the best! Enjoy Thanksgiving with those you love!

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  41. I love a million things about your blog. Top 3 in no particular order are: 1. Your honesty. 2. Twilight Sparkle is the cutest, funniest, kind, polite little girl and I love her sass. 3. Your blog is not a place where you toot your own horn but where you inspire and help other women with story, advice, and experiences. I am thankful for THAT this Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your sweet growing family. Thank you.

    -Julie M

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  42. not that either of you owe "us" an explanation on your relationship, but hopefully this post with settle with questions! :) I just assumed since you two were in different seasons of life, that was that. But it isn't "our" business to have to know what goes on. Happy Thanksgiving and I hope Aiden likes all the food :)

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  43. Very well put, also very cool of you to try and answer people's questions. ��

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  44. its really none of our business, but as many issues as we carry around with us as women, and the friendships that go with them, we are also a curious bunch! You verbalizing how things turned for you is REAL, and its a part of life.. at some point down the road you may find that your "circles" mesh a little better once again. its all a never ending process. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!
    Tami

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  45. thank you for sharing... you didn't have to, and we are nosy for asking, but it was also obvious that things had changed significantly -... maybe at some point down the road your "circles" will mesh once again, or maybe not.... life is too short.. enjoy the "in the moment" moments... happy thanksgiving to you and yours.
    Tami

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  46. I don't get people on the internet. Who cares who you are friends with? Why are people so caught up in your life? I hadn't noticed anything different, but people grow apart all the time. Hope you have a fantastic Thanksgiving!

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  47. Funny, I was just wondering about your friendship last night for some reason! It is a bummer when friendships dont work out but it is always better when friendships are true!

    I know you dont want people coming here to bash her so you dont have to approve my comment ;) The reason I enjoy your blog is because you seem to be a super happy and kind person. You seem sweet and there is no doubting you LOVE your baby girl. I am sure she is those things too but recently I have found her blog and IG to be so egotistical. Soo many pics of her body (that I personally think she is starving..and I was anorexic for 2 years and know signs of eating disorders..not necce anorexia or anything, but mental games one plays..just my opinion ;)and she always seems to be showing off...yes she works extremely hard and looks good but 4-5 before and after pics a week are a little much. Take all the pics you want but I dont think so many have to be shared! Sure you take pics too (but yours are while working out) but you arent like "Yeah baby so skinny now, check out this body!", haha. You always have a big smile on your face and dont look like you take yourself so seriously ;)

    And all her posts lately have been giveaways and free crap she gets. Thats not something I enjoy reading or looking at and I almost feel like she is bragging a lot with her free stuff. Not a fan. I don't even know her and she irks me, haha. Though as I said, I am sure she is very nice too!

    All in all you seem like a super great person and if I were to meet you I'd give you a big ole hug ;) Maybe one day you'll be in California or I'll be in Texas and our baby boys can play...though if I see Twilight Sparkle I may not want to give her back ;)

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  48. A very mature way to address the elephant in the room. Thank you!

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  49. What a classy way to address the subject. As a follower I hadn't thought anything out of the ordinary other than different schedules and busy lives for both of you.

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  50. It's unfortunate that you had to even address this, but you are a class act! Very well said!

    Enjoy your Thanksgiving and your family time!!

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  51. You're a class act Megan. Genuine, real and lovely.
    Have a great Thanksgiving!
    xoxo

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  52. I don't think there is anyone out there as kind as you are!! You are definitely a beautiful person--both inside and out!! May you and yours have a great Thanksgiving-even if consists of PB&J!!

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  53. I know I already told you this, but I totally respect you. Relationships are hard, and get even harder as adults. The only difference as an adult is that you can choose them. Not always the easiest choice, but sometimes you just need to do what's best for you!

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  54. Honestly, I always wondered how you two were such great friends. You seem to be a very genuine person and you deserve genuine friends.

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  55. Honestly, I always wondered how you two were such great friends. This makes more sense. You seem like a very genuine person! I really enjoy following your blog.

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  56. I agree with Aubrey - that was super brave. Girl friendships are weird and it takes a lot to maintain them... Best of luck to both of you - together or seperate, you both rock my socks off!

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  57. I love that your are genuine! More relatable!! ��

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  58. You are a class act and I have major respect for you. Happy Thanksgiving!

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  59. Definitely a bummer to hear and I'm sure it wasn't easy for you to write. I know we had spoke a while back when you blogged about friendship. Friendships are not easy, it's a two way street and you both have to put in the same effort - especially in communication. But, cheer up buttercup! Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

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  60. Thank you for the honesty in this post. Friendships are hard and I'm sure they are even harder when your lives are broadcasted to thousands of readers. I'm glad this was addressed in such a respectful and honest way. Happy Thanksgiving, Megan!

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  61. I wondered why I wasnt seeing you two together in pictures and etc.
    I respect your honesty and clearing the air, even if its NO ONES business, but you and brandi are followed and loved by many so i am sure the question comes up a lot. You two are on TWO VERY DIFFERENT paths in life and it happens, I love ya both and love reading and following your lives. Just focus on your health and baking that baby :)

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  62. I agree with my fellow "followers" in that you didn't OWE anyone of us an explanation on your personal friendship status with Brandi but how open of you to do so and in such a classy and friendly way :) Kudos to you! Female friendships, especially close ones, well they are in a way like marriages and they are always a work in progress, always! Sometimes though in our friendships we just start to move in different directions... that's life :) Wishing you & your family a Happy Thanksgiving!

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  63. I agree with my fellow "followers" in that you didn't OWE anyone of us an explanation on your personal friendship status with Brandi but how open of you to do so and in such a classy and friendly way :) Kudos to you! Female friendships, especially close ones, well they are in a way like marriages and they are always a work in progress, always! Sometimes though in our friendships we just start to move in different directions... that's life :) Wishing you & your family a Happy Thanksgiving!

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  64. I agree with my fellow "followers" in that you didn't OWE anyone of us an explanation on your personal friendship status with Brandi but how open of you to do so and in such a classy and friendly way :) Kudos to you! Female friendships, especially close ones, well they are in a way like marriages and they are always a work in progress, always! Sometimes though in our friendships we just start to move in different directions... that's life :) Wishing you & your family a Happy Thanksgiving!

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  65. Wow! Meg, I just gained so much respect for you through this post. I love both of your posts, but the bravery and class you showed by writing this shows everyone how real and genuine you are. Have a great Thanksgiving with Twilight Sparkle (I laugh every single time I see that name lol) your hubby and little Aiden :)

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  66. I love your honesty, tact and candor. It was very classy the way that you handled that. Rather than beating around the bush to avoid the speculation, you chose to confront it and nip it in the bud. Bravo!

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  67. I just love you even more Meg. You know I even made a new id ..skinnyztobe....lol.
    I need to do all the hard work to be skinny fit.

    I feel you are a real blogger. And I just love your videos and talks.
    I like Brandi as well.
    Some friendships dont last some do. Both for reasons unknown to us BUT for the better.
    Be well and Pls help me burn 900 cals before 7am.#Dream

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  68. Honesty is so very rare in the blog world, thank you for being one of the few! I'm glad you're able to see the benefit of having a few true friends than a gaggle of fake ones that you always have to put on an act for.
    Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!

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  69. ....And that folks, is how it's done.
    You handled a crappy situation with class and grace and didn't do any bashing in the process.
    I can NOT say the same for how someone else has handled things in regards to you.
    You are truly a breath of fresh air. :)

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  70. I think your honesty in this makes me like you even more. I think there is something to be said for truthfulness even in the difficult subjects!

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  71. I love your blog. You are very motivating, honest,and I can't wait to read your blog. I really enjoy your workout videos. Thank You and Happy Holidays to you and your family!

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  72. Thank you for being so candid. You are such an inspiration to me. You are awesome!

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  73. thank you for sharing about this. not because we need to know because it's not really our business, but because friendships are hard! we don't talk about it out loud. you've been so kind to me directly by putting me on your WOW and through your encouraging posts. thank you for being honest and sharing parts of your life with us.

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  74. My mouth is hanging open..but in a good way! This was extremely well put. Thank you for being so real.

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  75. Being a blogger, we share so much of our personal lives, and, get judged for the things we share! In the end, it's really none of any of ours business'!! I appreciate you for telling us, cause we all love you and are nosy! Lol!! Friendships at our age suck, trying to maintain new ones that may not be the right fit for us!! Anyway, I'm rambling! Happy thanksgiving!

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  76. ML's blog pointed me to yours, Holly's and then through Holly I found Kayla Layla (she's hilarious.) Anyway, I don't follow her anymore mostly bc I only have time to read 5 or so blogs a week but also bc it's just not entertaining anymore. I speak with all the knowledge of a blog reader (ie none) but it seemed something was wrong when she posted about wanting more kids or not and then things DEF seemed off when she decided to do the antithesis of get pregnant - a bikini contest. I might not know you guys but I know women and that was not a coincidence! Anyway all that sass and snark was just to say I appreciate you and the time you dedicate every day to blogging. You inspire me in many ways. Thank you.

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  77. ML's blog pointed me to yours, Holly's and then through Holly I found Kayla Layla (she's hilarious.) Anyway, I don't follow her anymore mostly bc I only have time to read 5 or so blogs a week but also bc it's just not entertaining anymore. I speak with all the knowledge of a blog reader (ie none) but it seemed something was wrong when she posted about wanting more kids or not and then things DEF seemed off when she decided to do the antithesis of get pregnant - a bikini contest. I might not know you guys but I know women and that was not a coincidence! Anyway all that sass and snark was just to say I appreciate you and the time you dedicate every day to blogging. You inspire me in many ways. Thank you.

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  78. I think you addressed this very lady like. Happy Thanksgiving :)

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  79. Love your blog and hardly ever comment ;) cause I'd just rather be a blog stalker:) female friendships are hard especially when one is still making her family and the other has a complete family:) two different paths that I hope if meant to be will meet at the end:)
    However, I'm saddened by a few if the above comments that say your old friend was a bad mom. This is the internet and one CANNOT judge someone on their "blog" for god sakes whether they are a good mom or not.
    Happy thanksgiving:)

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  80. THIS is why you are loved so much! You are classy, sincere and NOT fake. You are also a real role model for women, and I love how you are not crude with your words in your blog and do not act juvenile.

    Happy Thanksgiving to the best blogger and cutest family out there!!!

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  81. THanks for clearing the air. I know you both care for each other a lot, deep down. And, sometimes friendships have a season. So, even though the season it up, it has a good chance of coming around again:)

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  82. You are very genuine!

    Unrelated to your post, but your bump is adorable! Just had to let you know:)

    www.ashleyandmikemorris.blogspot.com

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  83. I love you both but friendships sometimes end. It happens! Best wishes on your new baby. :)

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  84. Pregnancy is a real bi*#% believe me!! I get it!! I'm about 2 weeks behind you and we are less tolerable etc....

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  85. Thanks for addressing this. ML is so hard to relate to. To each their own. Easier now dont have to deal with all the psycho ML fan girls.

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  86. I think this was a fabulous post: it totally displays your genuine, loving and real heart. Can you tell I'm your fan? :) {hugs} and blessings,
    Cintia

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  87. How respectful and kind you are. You are so inspiring in so many ways. God Bless

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  88. Your one brave chick! Kudos to you for being so open and upfront about what your relationship has become. Life is such!

    All the best with the rest of the pregnancy. I look forward to your updates!!

    Sana@ www.cheesecakeandatreadmill.blogspot.com

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  89. Keeping it classy, but real! I love you, girl!

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  90. Megan I've always had a lot of respect for you, and this post made me love you even more. I'm glad that you didn't finger point, etc. they always say friends come and go but the most important thing is what that friendship taught you:) Thks for keeping it classy

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  91. Thank you for being REAL, CLASSY and addressing questions in such an eloquent way. I appreciate your mature way to handle this delicate situation. Love your blog and seeing all your cute pics on instagram!

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  92. Wow. I picked this up, and do not know you both personally, but my intuition is very strong. Do not beat yourself up. I have been going through a very same scenario. However my friend was my best friend since childhood!

    I had to step away as we no longer had anything in common, and there was no support from her. It was a difficult and hard decision, but I needed to do this to move on with my life in a healthy, positive way.

    I love you and I love Brandi - and will always support the both of you...but I do understand.

    Thanks for being honest, we have all been there.

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  93. I've always LOVED your blunt honesty. I mean, literally from the moment I was introduced to you in that lovely teeny tiny back office waaaay back in 2007... I just loved it! And you always say it with a SMILE!! Keep it real, girl!

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  94. Sorry it didn't work out. you 2 seemed like quite the pair. But I've had good friends that ended up not eventually not working either. That is nice you shared with us, I had been secretly thinking why I had not seen you 2 together on the blogs for a while. But it is what it is and we each go on with our lives. Love ya Meg!

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